Why Moms Need Friends Too

The journey of motherhood is on my 
mind and heart with Mother’s Day coming
up.  But also because I had the blessing
to spend the day with a large room full of
Moms I love.  These women are in my MOMS
group at our church.  They are the most 
beautiful, engaging. witty, real, honest,
loving group of people I get the honor 
to hang out with.
I shared a little bit about being a 
recovering perfectionist today, and a few 
things to think about when we strive to 
live intentionally and use our gifts.
Sometimes we don’t remember them or know
if we ever had any.  We are just tired, and want to
sleep a whole night.  Or put some laundry away
without it piling up again so fast.  To eat a meal
quietly or have a phone conversation.  A real 
phone conversation without apologizing for
the kids screaming every few minutes. 
But our friends understand, and they love us
anyways.  They don’t care if your roots are 
super grown out, or if you picked up all 
of the dirty clothes in the bathroom before
they come over.  They don’t care if you have 
a lot of money, or can afford to brew a pot
of coffee and enjoy it with them.
Some friendships are new and like a shaky
newborn calf, they take time to grow and 
become strong.  Other friendships seem
to be able to weather anything.  It makes me
think about those first Spring flowers and
how brave they are to push through that 
cold frosty dirt.  But they do it anyways.
That’s what they are supposed to do.  They
are brave, strong and forge ahead when
we sometimes cannot understand how.
We need to allow ourselves to lean 
on our friends when they can pull us through
the dark times.  And to be that for
another Mom is such a blessing.

Our theme this year has been 
“together we are stronger”
and it is so very true.  That becomes
more real to me every day.
We all want to be a good Mom,
a great Mom.  But we cannot do it
without the group of women in our 
lives.  We are better together.
I spend this afternoon enjoying a few 
quiet moments while kids are napping.
I cannot imagine what life would be 
like without the beautiful women God
has put in my life.  Some of us have met
some of us have not yet.
But either way I am blessed.

 Hoping you are inspired to call that friend
and go to coffee.  
You know you will have fun.
The kids will survive.  The house can wait.
Go laugh and be silly.  You will be 
glad you did, promise.

Hugs & blessings

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  1. This is awesome, and so true. A good reminder for all. Thanks, Tanya!

  2. What an inspiring post, Tanya. You are absolutely right! And sometimes life gets so busy you forget about how important it is to foster those meaningful friendship. Thank you so much for sharing!

  3. I had morning tea with my mum and my sisters today who I consider to be my best friends. I think you are so right about needing friends as I feel so happy and positive after seeing them!

    I would so love to fly on over and have a coffee with you…maybe one day!

    Best wishes,
    Natasha in Oz

  4. It's easy for a mom to forget to make time for herself and the nourishment of her own soul. So good to be reminded. Thanks Tanya 🙂

  5. This is so important. I think so many of us get so focused on making sure our household run smoothly that we forget to nourish ourselves. We try for monthly girls night which is a great way to reconnect and recharge.

  6. I just love this post – it really hit deep with me. I have so many changes going on in my life right now, so important to remember and take take time for our special friends! I'm currently on a blog break but a new follower 🙂

  7. Tanya
    What a blessing this was to my heart. I loved the analogy of the flowers pushing through the cold. So true and yet some of us still are so hard on ourselves. Thank you for sharing this from your heart. well said my friend


  8. I have some friends and a BFF. We need them although yes it is a lot of work for some friendships and we get so busy.
    Beautiful post!

  9. This is so sweet! And such a good reminder. Sometimes my life becomes all about my kids and I have to remember to make time for friends or even just "me time."

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