If we ask our children and loved ones what they really want in life, they would probably
tell us that they want to be happy.
I have thought a lot about happiness and life so much since my Mom passed away
in early April. After the initial shock wore off I have to admit, I felt cheated out of
having her in my life and seeing her grand-kids and great grand-kids grow up.
It hurt every time someone mentioned their Mom, because it just reminded me
of loss and pain.
My Mom and I didn’t have a perfect relationship, but we learned how to just let the
other be who she is and stop trying to change each other. After realizing that we had
really done a good job of this, I stopped to look at all of the relationships and circustances
in my life. The greatest amount of peace I have had has come after letting go of
false expectations I had in the first place. The root of this seemed to be comparison.
If I just (fill in the blank) then I will be happy.
The seed of discontentment and bitterness settle in and set up camp as I compare
myself, my life, success, health, and relationships to others.
And what a waste of time if we are given those we have to
grow and teach us anyways.
Choosing to be happy isn’t pretending to be ok or living in denial. It’s seeing everything,
and choosing to focus on how blessed we are, and what we do have.
I can continue to work on stuff that needs improvement, it will always be there.
But I don’t have to let it run my life, or take my joy.
We have heard that people are about as happy as they make their minds up to be.
Well, it’s true. And it doesn’t happen by speeding thru the tough stuff or faking it.
It happens by being real, and vulnerable.
By having faith that things will get better, and believe we will survive.
And thrive, and experience laughter, and joy, and the human condition.
So if I seem a little weird, or a little too positive (combined with a dose of healthy sarcasm
too hee-hee) it’s because I am just living.
Some days are more fun, easier, go a bit more as planned.
But I am the only one who decides what kind of life I will have, and how happy I
will be. It sucks, really stinks to lose someone you love. But we all do, and as the
dust settles and I sort thru my thoughts, there really always has been an awful
lot to be thankful for.
So much to be grateful for.
Everything that’s so important to us to live for.
I want to use every bit of my happy up while I am on this planet, and see if I can
bring a bunch of happy to everyone in my life too.
You all make me SO happy, do you know that? Your comments, encouragement,
ideas, projects, and messages. What would happen if we just made the conscious
choice each day, or hour, as we felt ourselves slip over to the dark side… to see and be
I want a big old sack of happy just to hand out and give to everyone who hurts, to
show them the good things, and to not see everything wrong, but all that is right.
Grab your sack of happy y’all 🙂
Wishing you a wonderful, blessed day friend- luv you SO!!
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